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 May God's blessings and mercy be on your Marriage is Prophet's  tradition in life, it is not a mere bond and unity between two physical  bodies. rather it is the assemblage of two spirits. Marriage is not  aimed at attaining a transient joy, rather at reaching human perfection  and perpetuating the human generation. 
Be merited wife for your husband as God wants you to be; a woman with  a prosperous life in this world and a guaranteed salvation in the other  world. The following steps may help you to recognize your duties as a  wife and to better fulfill them. 
One: Accompany your husband to reach his sacred goal  and be a partner in safeguarding the marital life. For the true love is  not to look at each other in the eyes, rather to look towards the same  direction. Know that accompanying your husband in same affairs would add  to the beauty of marriage life. 
Two: Try to habituate yourself to religious  performances inside the house such as recitation of the Holy Quran in  the morning, reading books following the news etc. It would have more  effect on you if you do it together with your husband. 
Three: Do not separate yourself from the people and  do not let the marriage prevent you from participating in social  affairs. For your duty to defend the truth and help the deprived is not  only limited to singleness. Be aware that marriage is not a golden cage  to surround yourself with rather husband and wife are as two wings of a  bird, the existence of both of which are essential for flying. It is  with the cooperation of each other that you will have a prosperous life. 
Four: Your house should be as simple as the  Prophet's house; its only decoration being love, affection, and unity  not the luxury things for nothing is more beautiful than love and  affection and greater than simplicity. 
Five: If your husband attempts to misguide you  towards the fire of the hell be stronger and guide him to the heaven. Do  not accompany him if he is making sin, for your deeds will be the only  intercessor on the resurrection day not your husband and/or the  children. 
Six: Be a conscience to your husband; stop him from  making any sin and encourage him to worship. By doing this you will  become a woman whom the Holy Prophet (SAW) described as: "After his  faith in God, the believer has not achieved anything better than a nice  wife who would make him happy and help him in serving God." 
Seven: Read books about the children and the methods  of upbringing before having a baby for your child is a trust that God  has given you to take care of. Be careful of how you bring him up and  how you make his personality. 
Eight: Do not permit any gap to separate you and  your husband in Jihad, if he is jailed or killed in this way then you  should continue his struggle. Be like the wife of "Wahab"  for when he was killed in the battle she took the pole of the tent and  fought the enemy with it. After she was killed by the sword of the  enemy. her spirit joined her husband's in heaven. 
Or be like Zainab (SA)  and destroy the oppressor with your speech and show his bloody clothes  to the people so they would feel the depth of the oppression. 
Nine: Be patient and accompany your husband in  bearing the difficulties and pressures of life, and encourage him to  resistance when he is disappointed. Help him when there is nobody else  to solace him. Be like Hazrat Khadijeh (SA) whom the Holy Prophet (SAW) said about: 
"She (Hazrat Khadijeh) helped me when people degraded and excommunicated me and believed me when others disbelieved me." 
Be aware that any man needs a wife to be beside him in facing the  difficulties; a wife who would stay in the same line with her husband  when everybody else is opposing him and who would give confidence to him  to face tike problems. 
Ten: As his loyal assistant arrange your husband's  room for his social activities respect his decisions, and help him to  manage his social affairs. By doing this his love for the house and the  family would increase. 
Eleven: Do not interfere in all his affairs for he  is not your necklace or the button of your shirt, rather he is a human  being who has to face many problems. Do not attempt to impose your idea  on him or supervise his activities for the freedom of every being should  be considered. 
Twelve: Serve your husband for it would strengthen the marriage bond and would have the great blessings of God. Imam Sadiq (AS)  said: "One benefactor woman is better than a thousand wicked men and  God would close seven gates of the hell and open eight gates of the  heaven to the wife who serves her husband for seven days." 
He also says: "Among the rights of the husband which the wife should  fulfill are, cooking the food welcoming the husband when he enters the  house, preparing the towel and water (as in those days there was no tap  water and the wife used to bring the water in a pitcher so the man could  wash his hands with) an not avoiding him." 
Thirteen: Talk about generosity and optimism to your  husband and invigorate these characteristics in him. Encourage him in  bearing the burden of his great responsibilities and know that your  encouragement is the most effective one. The effect of your husband on  the people is a reflection of the effect of you on him.. If you treat  your husband as a polite, successful, brave, faithful and honest man  then he would become a man with all these characteristics. Be a great  wife who stands behind a great husband. 
Fourteen: Learn from the skills of your husband what  you do not know and use his experiences. Teach him whatever he does not  know. Be aware that a successful life is not achieved only when the man  is pious but when the woman is pious as well. 
Fifteen: Contentment is the most beautiful  characteristic that one may have in the world. The Holy Prophet (SAW)  said: "God will not accept the good deeds of the wife who imposes more  than her husband could afford on him and when she meets God she will  find him angry with her." 
Be a follower of Hazarat Fatimah Zahra (SA). When Imam Ali (AS)  one day saw her pale face, he asked: "What has happened to you,  Fatimah?" She answered: "We did not have anything in the house for three  days." The Imam said: "Why didn't you tell me?" She replied: "My  father, the Prophet of God told me in the wedding night: Fatimah, eat  when Ali brings food otherwise do not ask for it." 
Sixteen: Be the first to reconcile when there is a  quarrel between you and your husband for God has said: "And if a woman  fears ill usage or desertion on the part of her husband, there is no  blame on them if they effect a reconciliation between them and  reconciliation is better." Reveal your affection to your husband and  teach him a lesson with your reconciliation that he would never forget. 
Seventeen: Avoid anger and jeer. Do not argue much  and do not reveal the other's faults. Do not ask for a life like the  other's for it would weaken the marriage bond. Forget and forgive things  that might upset you. Your life is now different from when you were  single since you are sharing your life with somebody else. 
God willing these points may remind our dear sisters of some of their  great responsibilities and help them to become a faithful wife. 
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