Pearl of Wisdom

'Know that acts of courtesy earn Praiseworthy results, and end in rewardable gains. If you were to see acts of courtesy personified as a man, you would perceive him to be good and handsome, pleasing for people to behold and transcending all the worlds. And if you were to see acts of vileness personified, you would perceive an ugly, revolting, disfigured man, whom the hearts would be averse to and whom the eyes would turn away from in disgust.'

Imam Hussain ibn Ali al-Shahid [as]
A'lam al-Din, p. 298

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Question : #980 Category: Youth Issues
Subject: girlfriend
Question: Salamun Alaikum

Is it permissible to have a girlfriend?
when-
1)We two (me and my girlfriend) will strongly maintain rules of Islam regarding Opposite sex and will stay away from.doing Haram works(touching,kissing or anyother sexual works) and will never meet each other in any destitute area(an area where there is no people near us).

2)If our Niyat is to know each other and then go on with marriage if we feel each other well.(There is no chance to do Mutah in our country).

3) If she do unislamic works,wear unislamic dresses and so,I want to be his friend and want to develop and rectify  her and try to take her in the way of Ahl ul Bayt to follow(she is a member of ahl sunnah).

Even if,we want to go on a Mutah,before that we have to know each other,attract each other,feel each other,like each other because she is not a sex-slave, that I  will choose her seeing her body and take her to do mutah without knowing her feelings.

I am a unmarried 18 years old boy facing problems in our ultra-secular society and my family will never permit me to marry in so small age(in our country the average marriage age of male is 26).

In this case,how can I solve my accute problems?Can I go on with my friendship with my girl friend?

Wasalam
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