Pearl of Wisdom
?O Abu Dharr, gance in his heart will never smell the scent of Heaven unless he repents beforehand.' Abu Dharr asked, ?O Messenger of Allah, I am fond of beauty so much so that I wished that the handle of my cane and the lace of my sandal be beautiful. So, should I be afraid of this?' He said, 'How do you see your heart?' Abu Dharr said, 'I see it knowing the truth, and certain of it.' He (SAWA) said, 'That is not arrogance. Rather, arrogance is that you leave the truth and exceed beyond it. You look at people and you do not see their honour as being like your honour or their blood like yours.'
Prophet Muhammad al-Mustafa [sawa]
Ibid. v. 77, p. 90, no. 3
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Subject: Married men and Muta - wrong?
Question: I feel that there is a cultural stigma against a married man engaging in
mutah. People always envision a wife working hard at home to raise the
kids while the husband is out playing with his mutah.
Now, if he is as fair as he can be with regards to time, money, etc., spent
with all of his wives, is there any harm in a married man engaging in mutah
for whatever reason, be it pleasure or otherwise?
Also, is there any harm in him having multiple mutahs, for pleasure or
otherwise, if he is still as fair as he can be with regards to time and
money, etc.? Or, is he wrong to engage in mutah if he is married in some cases?
Also, if a wife is jealous of her husband being involved with these mutahs
which are perhaps for his pleasure but he is trying to be fair in time,
etc., is she sinning in that jealousy?
It is important to note that it is very difficult if not impossible to be
fair and just to both wives in a polygamous marriage, whether it be
permanent or temporary. Some ulama have told me that in their opinion, a man
who is happily married with children should not perform the muta for fun
especially as this will probably affect his married life, it will create
tension in his marriage and could possibly lead to a divorce.
As for having multiple mutahs, apart from the fact that it is impossible to
be just to all parties in such circumstances, there is a real possibility of cathing or spreading diseases especially in modern times.
Why should a dedicated wife who is bringing up her children be exposed to such treatment?
Indeed, it is but natural for a woman to feel jealous and aggrieved under
May Allah guide us all, Amin.
Follow Up Question: as per the above answer, i think you mean that a married person (who is in full time relationship) not allowed to do mutah..
please advice , what about 2 , 3 & 4th marriage... ??
what should a married man do for the pleasure??