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The Prophet (SAWA) said, 'Shall I tell you who is the toughest and strongest from among you? The one who controls himself when he is angry.'

Prophet Muhammad al-Mustafa [sawa]

Nathr al-Durar, v. 1, p. 183

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Category: Marriage - Muta'

Subject:	Married men and Muta - wrong?
Question:	I feel that there is a cultural stigma against a married man engaging in mutah. People always envision a wife working hard at home to raise the kids while the husband is out playing with his mutah. Now, if he is as fair as he can be with regards to time, money, etc., spent with all of his wives, is there any harm in a married man engaging in mutah for whatever reason, be it pleasure or otherwise? Also, is there any harm in him having multiple mutahs, for pleasure or otherwise, if he is still as fair as he can be with regards to time and money, etc.? Or, is he wrong to engage in mutah if he is married in some cases? Also, if a wife is jealous of her husband being involved with these mutahs which are perhaps for his pleasure but he is trying to be fair in time, etc., is she sinning in that jealousy?
Answer:	It is important to note that it is very difficult if not impossible to be fair and just to both wives in a polygamous marriage, whether it be permanent or temporary. Some ulama have told me that in their opinion, a man who is happily married with children should not perform the muta for fun especially as this will probably affect his married life, it will create tension in his marriage and could possibly lead to a divorce. As for having multiple mutahs, apart from the fact that it is impossible to be just to all parties in such circumstances, there is a real possibility of cathing or spreading diseases especially in modern times. Why should a dedicated wife who is bringing up her children be exposed to such treatment? Indeed, it is but natural for a woman to feel jealous and aggrieved under such circuimstances. May Allah guide us all, Amin.

Follow Up
Question:

as per the above answer, i think you mean that a married person (who is in full time relationship) not allowed to do mutah..

please advice , what about 2 , 3 & 4th marriage... ??
what should a married man do for the pleasure??

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