Pearl of Wisdom
'The most severe of major sins is for a man to use obscene language at his parents.' He was asked, 'And how does he use obscene language at his parents?' He said, 'That a man uses obscene language at another, and he uses obscene language back at his father and mother.'
Prophet Muhammad al-Mustafa [sawa]
Bihar al-Anwar, v.74, p. 46, no. 6
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Subject: marriage issue
Question: Asslamo Alaikum
A colleague of mine is in foreign country he came back last time and found unknown phone numbers and messages in wife’s mobile, he asked her about these numbers and sms . he inquired her, asking what relation you have with that man whose numbers you have in your mobile she replied in negative that he is just her cousin and nothing else .then he(husband) left after completion his leave of three months.
After one year he came to know the truth from another person that his wife has illegal relations with a man who was calling her and sending her messages. He (husband)went back again and his wife herself told him everything accepting her mistake and told him that I was involved in a major sin he asked her why you did not tell me when I asked you regarding this matter, she told him(I was in darkness and ignorance and was doing the bad act in your absence I wronged my soul and cheated on you and children as well I have lost my faith by doing this heinous sin which is prohibited in Quran and sunnah.but I have cut all ties and forget my past by doing true toubah .i am offering prayers regularly and doing good deeds asking for forgiveness of Allah (swt) repenting in front of him. I do ask you to forgive me for the sake of Allah and his messenger(peace be upon him)and for the sake of children Allah have shown me the right way ,I will not leave it again and will never do this bad thing again I take an oath on the Quran that I will be doing good deeds turning to Allah and to you .but husband says that I cannot keep you with me in my future life because you done a major sin and did not protect your private parts in my absence you gave me a severe pain and destroy my honour . Question is , does he (husband)forgive her believing her and keep her as his wife or better to divorce her (unbelieving wife) please guide in the light of Quran and sunah jazak Allah khair
Wa Aleakom al salam Wa Rahmatullah.
its very sad to hear.
forgiving is very important and very recommended in Islam , spatially if it is between a husband and wife.
we have lots of Ayat in Quran and Rewayat narrations from Ahlul Bayt (sw) about how to solve problems and issues between husband and wife and who important is it and how much rewards Allah subhanaho will give us for that.
But after all this;
I think its better to find a shaikh in your area and talk to him about , Face to Face.
asalokom al Dua.
Follow Up Question: Sadaqah JariyahHadrat Hadrat Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) reoeptrd Allah's Messenger (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, Among the actions and good deads for which a believer will continue to receive reward after his death are knowledge which he taught and spread, a good son whom he left behind, or a copy of the Qur'an which he left as a legacy, or a mosque he built, or a house which he built for the traveller, or a stream which he caused to flow, or a sadaqa which he gave from his property when he was alive and well, for which he will continue to receive reward after his death. (Ibn Majah and Baihaqi)